That’s why we developed the Spark Finder — a short quiz that identifies which of 22 specific dating patterns is getting in your way and gives you a personalized report with tips to move forward.
When it's not working, it's often not obvious why — Where do you start?
Dating is hard
You're not broken. You have a pattern. Patterns can change.
Find the Person.
Find the Pattern.
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How it Works
One size fits all dating advice doesn’t work
Go from frustration and uncertainty to better clarity — in minutes
Three simple steps. No jargon, no generic advice. Just a precise look at what’s in your way and a clear path forward.
1 · Take a quiz — Answer honest questions about your dating experience. No trick questions — just a clear-eyed look at what’s actually happening.
2 · Find your pattern — You’ll receive one of 22 specifically named patterns — not a vague category. Your result explains why this pattern forms, how it typically shows up in dating, and why it has felt so hard to change.
3 · Get your path forward — Your report includes next steps and “watch outs” — specific things to try differently and patterns of behavior to avoid.
Stop guessing. Start connecting.
Find the pattern.
Understand the pattern. Change the story.
Your next relationship starts here.
Find your person.
Laura Heft, Ph.D.
Spark Coach
Behavioral Scientist, Psychologist, author of ReSingled, and Certified Deeper Dating Mentor.
I'’ve spent a lot of time — professionally and personally — thinking about why dating is so hard for most of us. Why is it so difficult to meet someone we can love, enjoy, and share our lives with? It can feel disappointing, discouraging, almost impossible. I found a way to break through the dating enigma and I found my person. I want to share what I learned so you can find your person too. ”
If you’re here, something has started to look different to you. Maybe it’s a pattern you’ve noticed across several relationships — the same arc, different people. Maybe it’s just a quiet question you’ve been carrying: why does this keep happening?
That question is where we start. The patterns I work with are real, well-understood, and responsive to exactly the kind of work the Spark Finder system is built around. Once you name the pattern, everything changes.
Behavioral Scientist / the best science on how to change
Psychologist / every tool is research-backed, not based on guesswork
Author / ReSingled: Survive and Then Thrive— a guide to dating after a breakup
Deeper Dating Mentor / trained in the wildly successful Deeper Dating methodology (trained by founder Ken Page)
Coach / decades of experience helping people make the real changes that improve their lives
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The Spark Finder